The first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt, or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a penis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesn’t happen to everybody. Some people naturally have more hymenal tissue than others — this pain and bleeding can happen when your hymen gets stretched.
The hymen is a small, thin piece of skin that can either partially or totally cover the entrance to your vagina. You may have already broken your hymen without knowing about it – for example, when playing sports or using a tampon.When a man has sex for the first time, it shouldn’t hurt, but you can make it easier for your partner through foreplay, making sure there’s plenty of lubrication, and by being gentle and going slowly.
You will be less aroused if you feel scared or insecure. Your vagina will remain too dry and your pelvic floor muscles will contract. This means your vagina will be too tight which makes penetration difficult or impossible. Try to relax.
Make time for foreplay and try not to think of penetrative sex as the main goal. Penetration will be painful if the vagina is not lubricated. You can also try using lubrication.But don’t use oil-based lubricants – such as lotion, body oil or petroleum jelly (Vaseline) – with latex or polyisoprene condoms because they can damage the condom and make it more likely to split.
Whenever semen (cum) or pre-cum gets in your vagina, pregnancy can happen — whether it’s your first time or your hundredth time having sex. Pregnancy can also happen if cum gets on or near your vulva (your outside genitals), or if fingers that have wet cum on them touch your vulva or vagina. Remember: it only takes one tiny sperm to cause pregnancy.
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